Giving & Sharing

I believe giving & sharing is a gift and a blessing, however, when it becomes a habit and a constant repetition it can become toxic. Yes, it’s great to lend a helping hand, but when your aid is always required or expected, that dependency can hinder someone from being independent in helping themselves and ultimately reaching their full potential.

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like this little girl who wants a life time benefit of being rocked to sleep, OMG..

This Can Become a Curse…

Taking on someone else’s problems and burdens as your own, even when you genuinely and wholeheartedly aim to assist can backfire. At times your attempts seem aimless and worthless as you watch the person fall back into the same ritual. They revert back to that helpless individual always needing a helping hand and with the same issue that you not to long ago helped them overcome. Which brings the question…why is it that the person refuses to help themselves?

You cannot feed someone that’s not hungry, in other words you cannot be quick to give a  helping hand to get someone  out of a situation that they haven’t realized is toxic yet. Until that moment of revelation and that much needed epiphany occur, there’s not much that can be done. You cannot bend over backwards helping someone unwilling to help themselves.

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Comfort plays a big role, they’ve become accustomed to you stepping in to take and carry their baggage for them. As a Result, they no longer feel the need to make an effort. At times your help can become a crutch of hindrance. That is the time you have to realize your giving and sharing is no help at all. In fact, it has cause a stagnation that gives the illusion of help for a moment. Though with good intentions, it has acted as a barricade and has stopped that individual from moving forward in life. By living only with expectations of others help, they’ve formed a negative habit and forget that they have to DO to live.

GIVE Them A Chance TO Be Great!

There's a Rise in Giving
There’s a Rise in Giving

In most cases, all it takes is for someone to do for themselves that one time to get it right forever.  And in the future they too can possibly help you! Yes, you give with no expectation of getting anything in return,  but also know why do you give.  Give with the expectation that the person receiving will do better.  That means you have to give them time to get there. Allow them the opportunity to lift themselves up.

 

A wise man by the name of Lao Tzu said something along those lines,  that has stuck with me. I too hope you will remember this and  allow it to sank in deep in your thoughts. If a man is hungry you can go into your garden pick out fruits and vegetables and feed him for today. But, if you teach him how to sow and reap a harvest, he will be fed for the rest of his life.

Lend a helping hand, with expectations and high standards for growth, self improvement, learning, and positivity for the person on the receiving end. Teach them how to survive , thrive, and reap a better harvest for the future.

@DonnaDeeDiva